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Post by Marilyn on Aug 9, 2012 14:15:18 GMT -5
marylou01, kids imitate what they see, so just don't feed the OCD that is growing in that little girl. I would get ahold of an OCD specialist and try to nip it in the bud so she doesn't grow up and pass it on and on and on. Maybe it's time to stop it with her. I know OCD is hard to live with. I don't have it, but I do find myself, on occasion, being repetitious with little things. I also think being idle feeds OCD. Keep your mind and hands busy and if things such as crooked bows bother you like they bother her, then don't look in the mirror. That's something we have control of.
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Post by dfnmeows44 on Aug 9, 2012 18:41:39 GMT -5
If you remember the scene from The Christmas Story the mother talks about starving children in China. In those days you may have been reluctant to take a long bath, or undress unless the door to the bathroom was locked because you did not want others to see you totally undressed.
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Post by JeriJet on Aug 9, 2012 21:24:58 GMT -5
marylou01, kids imitate what they see, so just don't feed the OCD that is growing in that little girl. I would get ahold of an OCD specialist and try to nip it in the bud so she doesn't grow up and pass it on and on and on. Maybe it's time to stop it with her. I know OCD is hard to live with. I don't have it, but I do find myself, on occasion, being repetitious with little things. I also think being idle feeds OCD. Keep your mind and hands busy and if things such as crooked bows bother you like they bother her, then don't look in the mirror. That's something we have control of. Good advice, Marilyn. May I add that being idle feeds so many other emotional problems -- depression, anxiety, even lesser examples like loneliness, shyness, etc., etc..... There are often rather simple paths to follow in order to help rid ourselves of these things. Expensive doctors and meds are not always the perfect solution.
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Post by goldenslumbers on Aug 10, 2012 22:29:14 GMT -5
11 people and 1 bathroom means a lot of waiting around. That's my guess. Besides, perhaps the tin tub was cleaner than the bathtub?
Or maybe they checked, but Grandpa was in there, splashing around with some rubber duckies! Could be...
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Post by goldenslumbers on Aug 10, 2012 22:31:49 GMT -5
Speaking of taking baths, I just watched that episode with Jody the little black kid and Jim Bob was taking a bath outside in a tub. Why?
Oops!...might help a tad if I include this original comment from Page 1 of this thread...
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Post by goldenslumbers on Aug 10, 2012 22:40:09 GMT -5
JeriJet -
Referencing your last comment, I am quite suspicious of any medications prescribed to help allieve what you have described here.
Lots of drugs are prescribed nowadays not to benefit the patient, but to reduce liabilities. Doctors and counselors who do not encourage prescriptions leave themselves open to lawsuits should the patient hurt him/herself or others while under their care. Major lawsuits.
Patient misbehavior becomes "the drug's fault" instead of the fault of the doctor or coounselor.
Sad, but true.
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Post by yancy on Aug 10, 2012 23:07:20 GMT -5
Have you ever noticed the floor in front of the kitchen sink? There always mopping the floor but it never comes clean
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Post by JeriJet on Aug 11, 2012 6:39:18 GMT -5
JeriJet - Referencing your last comment, I am quite suspicious of any medications prescribed to help allieve what you have described here. Lots of drugs are prescribed nowadays not to benefit the patient, but to reduce liabilities. Doctors and counselors who do not encourage prescriptions leave themselves open to lawsuits should the patient hurt him/herself or others while under their care. Major lawsuits. Patient misbehavior becomes "the drug's fault" instead of the fault of the doctor or coounselor. Sad, but true. True, true...... Many people only finally "cure" themselves after years of doctors, drugs, etc. , only when they give all that up, take honest stock of themselves, and take full responsibility for their lives. I blame doctors and pharmaceutical companies, along with lawyers and advertising execs for this mess !! They all attract us to a "miracle cure" that doesn't work. It's frequently the old "pulling oneself up by the bootstraps" that works best in the end......
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2012 13:37:53 GMT -5
I hate watching people eat. Even those with great manners.
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Post by mercantile on Aug 11, 2012 14:12:57 GMT -5
I hate watching people eat. Even those with great manners. That's a fair point. I notice that nearly all the guests at the Walton table are respective of their traditions and manners. I wonder what the introduction of chopsticks would have brought? mercantile
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Post by Marilyn on Aug 11, 2012 14:47:21 GMT -5
Why is that Scarlett?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2012 15:20:20 GMT -5
I am not a big eater for one thing, so I do not put a lot of emphasis on dining. But when I am dining, I want things to be as pleasant as possible. A lot of people are gross when they eat and some can't help it. My brother makes horrible breathing noises through his nose when his mouth is full and I can still hear it even right now as I type. Curbs my appetite. Almost as yucky as having an aquarium in view while eating and watching the fish poop. Yum
I could be happy (I think) if people food came like pet food. More of a small selection of life staged food. Maybe two flavors of kid food, two flavors of adult food and two flavors of senior food. Pour it in your cereal bowl and be done with it all.
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Post by goldenslumbers on Aug 11, 2012 16:02:36 GMT -5
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True, true...... Many people only finally "cure" themselves after years of doctors, drugs, etc. , only when they give all that up, take honest stock of themselves, and take full responsibility for their lives. I blame doctors and pharmaceutical companies, along with lawyers and advertising execs for this mess !! They all attract us to a "miracle cure" that doesn't work.
It's frequently the old "pulling oneself up by the bootstraps" that works best in the end......[/quote]
JeriJet, I think most people going through traumatic periods (as most of us will at some point) are better served by recognizing that what they are experiencing really is quite bad...and that the best way to heal is to accept the bad times for what they are, then recognizing it may take months or years to get past it.
Awful experiences/shocks take a long time to get over. As can be reasonably expected.
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Post by goldenslumbers on Aug 11, 2012 18:41:38 GMT -5
Marylou,
I'm sorry that you've been through so much.
You already know that you'll ever fnd yourself back at the point you were before. So what now? Two things helped me in the past: creating a new reality (to some extent) of my choosing, and secondly, revisiting those things that so interested me in my childhood. I've been happily surprised the extent to which the latter heped me get past things. Very odd, that.
One other thing I did was spend time watching video of old soldiers and imagining/reading about all the hell they went through. How did they get past what they experienced and saw?
Hop on You-Tube, type in "Gettyburg 75th Anniversary" (for example) and look at those white-bearded old coots. Think of the things they saw and went through. So how come they were still up and around as late as 1938? Who were these guys? How did they adapt to Life After X? Their physical/mental/emotional/spiritual pain trumps anything you or I have experienced. Yet, there they are. So how did they do it? What ccan we learn from these guys?
I don't know if a pure mental quest might help you, Marylou, but perhaps it will. Put aside the physical, emotional and spiritual aside as best you can for a while, and seize onto one helluva mental exercise.
I dunno. My apologies if all this comes of as nothing but b.s.
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Post by JeriJet on Aug 11, 2012 18:46:23 GMT -5
True, true...... Many people only finally "cure" themselves after years of doctors, drugs, etc. , only when they give all that up, take honest stock of themselves, and take full responsibility for their lives. I blame doctors and pharmaceutical companies, along with lawyers and advertising execs for this mess !! They all attract us to a "miracle cure" that doesn't work. It's frequently the old "pulling oneself up by the bootstraps" that works best in the end......[/quote] JeriJet, I think most people going through traumatic periods (as most of us will at some point) are better served by recognizing that what they are experiencing really is quite bad...and that the best way to heal is to accept the bad times for what they are, then recognizing it may take months or years to get past it. Awful experiences/shocks take a long time to get over. As can be reasonably expected. [/quote] ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- Golden, Never said they shouldn't recognize their experiences are quite debilitating. Been there, done that. What I'm saying is that I don't think we are offered the right kind of help -- sincere, not dollar motivated..... All the pill pushing that goes on is insane. And, in the end, therapy helps more than anything else. Unfortunately, it takes years and years of trying this med and that med, and usually lost jobs, car accidents caused by the meds .... even lost friends and loved ones due to the effect of temporary personality changes. It's extremely important to keep talking to a therapist. Pill taking is not extremely important; it's keeps folks from working on their problems and is harmful in the long run. We need to stop thinking in terms of a magic pill. I think we are definitely better served if we don't look for a quick fix. Getting serious with therapy, exercise, eating/sleeping right, keeping busy...... taking personal responsibility in any way we can.......
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