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Post by daniela on May 1, 2014 0:22:05 GMT -5
Thank you everyone for your support, and encouraging words.
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Post by ForeverWaltons on May 3, 2014 2:04:12 GMT -5
Daniela - I'm so sorry to hear of your friend's illness. It's frightening watching someone suffer, especially when most of us don't come with the skills necessary to alleviate their pain and suffering - and it does sound like she is suffering. She is terrified and trying to hold on to someone, hoping to stop the inevitable. If you haven't already, get someone from palliative care or pastoral care to visit with her and you. They can help. Also, don't be too worried about the infection - it is probably an MRSA - I was told it lies dormant in many people anyway. The smell is probably the coagulated blood from her wound - it has a terrible smell when it builds up which it does because the practice is to leave wounds to heal and that means leaving the dressings longer than they used to. You can ask to speak to the wound specialist about the odor and ask if they are changing the dressing often enough. I'm so sorry you're going through this but hang in as long as you can - many people drop away in these situations. You sound like you are in for the long haul. Good luck. Thank you bucky! I spoke with my friend today, and she is getting moved to a hospice. She told me that news, and then told me that she needs to ask me something. She asked if I would be a pall bearer for her. I told her of course I would, but all night at work, that's all I could think about. I will be going to visit her on Friday. She's near the end. She did tell me today that she think the doctors are wrong, because she feels great. I really believe that she just can't believe it. I think that's why she doesn't sleep, and refuses to take sleeping meds. I think she's scared that if she falls asleep, she won't wake up. She sleeps for no longer than ten minutes at a time. She will be talking to you, and then fall asleep. I don't know...it's sad, and I feel for her family, especially her three children. I will continue to be there for her as much as I can.
Daniela - I apologize for just now being able to offer you support about standing so faithfully by your friend. I know it's difficult and heartbreaking, but it has got to mean so much to your friend, that you are there for her as often as you can be.
Forrest Gump: Then, Bubba said something I won't ever forget.
Bubba: I wanna go home.
Forrest: Bubba was my best good friend. And even I know that ain't something you can find just around the corner. Bubba was going to be a shrimping boat captain, but instead, he died right there by that river in Vietnam.
You are being a best good friend and what a blessing that must be to her. Stay strong my friend - I have you both in my prayers.
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Post by nedandres on May 3, 2014 15:34:12 GMT -5
It is very important to support our friends and loved ones while they are alive. Funerals are challenging for many people. When I was recently in the USA (I live in Ecuador) I attended a funeral for my cousin who had committed suicide. I was the only member of my immediate family; the others declined for various reasons. It is a personal decision, and we need to support and accept those decisions, even if personally we would not act in the same way.
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Post by patriciaanne on May 3, 2014 19:34:50 GMT -5
It is very important to support our friends and loved ones while they are alive. Funerals are challenging for many people. When I was recently in the USA (I live in Ecuador) I attended a funeral for my cousin who had committed suicide. I was the only member of my immediate family; the others declined for various reasons. It is a personal decision, and we need to support and accept those decisions, even if personally we would not act in the same way. I'm so sorry for your loss, Nedandres. It can be difficult to understand a decision like this to take one's life and I think it makes a much more difficult grieving process. I hope you have found peace with this and I pray your cousin is at peace as well.
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