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Post by patriciaanne on Sept 26, 2014 6:34:03 GMT -5
Wow - what an affectionate group! I actually had an Uncle who shook hands with me upon his arrival and departure - even when I was a small child. Guess that's where I developed my strong handshake! Of course in this day and age, we hear that kissing, and even shaking hands is kind of unsanitary. I guess we could wave goodnight to each other . . . . I suppose it depends on who you're hugging and kissing. lol I'll take my chances hugging and kissing my own family. But I generally refrain from hugging and kissing strangers on the street. This reminds me of a funny story. A few weeks ago my sister's in-laws were visiting from Florida. On Saturday she was supposed to have a BBQ at her house, but her mother-in-law was very sick with a stomach virus so we all went out to eat somewhere (not her mother-in-law). Next day MIL felt much better so my sister had her BBQ. I kissed everyone hello, but when I got to her MIL, I waved! I think she was miffed, but I didn't care--I can't afford to get sick!
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Post by ForeverWaltons on Sept 26, 2014 8:13:41 GMT -5
Wow - what an affectionate group! I actually had an Uncle who shook hands with me upon his arrival and departure - even when I was a small child. Guess that's where I developed my strong handshake! Of course in this day and age, we hear that kissing, and even shaking hands is kind of unsanitary. I guess we could wave goodnight to each other . . . . I suppose it depends on who you're hugging and kissing. lol I'll take my chances hugging and kissing my own family. But I generally refrain from hugging and kissing strangers on the street. This reminds me of a funny story. A few weeks ago my sister's in-laws were visiting from Florida. On Saturday she was supposed to have a BBQ at her house, but her mother-in-law was very sick with a stomach virus so we all went out to eat somewhere (not her mother-in-law). Next day MIL felt much better so my sister had her BBQ. I kissed everyone hello, but when I got to her MIL, I waved! I think she was miffed, but I didn't care--I can't afford to get sick!
If someone is sick in our household, then we refrain from hugging and kissing until we are sure the sickness is gone. My poor foreverettes, they will still want their hug and kiss at bedtime and when it is time to say goodbye. I have to remind them that we can't until everyone is healthy again. We can't afford for momma to be sick (even if I do get sick, I still have to keep going though ). Mr. Forever and I even give up our kisses to each other too. So we all blow air kisses to each other.
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Post by suzie on Sept 26, 2014 18:56:27 GMT -5
It seems as though the Waltons are always kissing and hugging. The kids kiss John , Olivia, Grandma and Grandpa goodnight, goodbye when they leave for school, hello when they return from school -whenever. Just wondering if anyone here has kids that actually do that? I know Southerners love to hug and kiss - even if they've just seen a person earlier in the day. This sometimes makes me uncomfortable. Too much (although I'd be glad to plant a few on John . . .)! Hi I come from an Irish family and as a child and up to when I left home we all kissed each other goodnight. Including any extended family in the house. This was the same for all of my cousins and their parents. We would always kiss our parents when we left the house, going out in the morning for school or out for a night in the pub with friends. My mum is no longer alive but up until she died I would always kiss her goodbye and she would make her way around the house and kiss all my children and husband and any additionally relatives or friends in my home. I greet and say goodbye to all my relatives and friends with a kiss as do most of my friends with their family members, most of them are English and have English parents. If I go out shopping I usually bump into one or two people that I greet and say goodbye to with a kiss, Just yesterday my friend , followed by her brother, two friends at a Zumba class and my Aunt that I saw in the street, all pretty normal! I have never thought that the Waltons behaviour was unusual and thought that they are just a loving family as mine is. I have some friends whose families are very formal and they grew up without much physical affection but were still loved. I think it is interesting the way different families behave and how each family have a unique culture and the norm for one family is so strange to another one. I think a good example of this is during childhood when you may stay at a friends home overnight and experience another families workings, how they divide chores, eat their meals etc. I remember going to a friends house as teenager and being horrified by the constant swearing of her parents, I didn't rush to go back there in a hurry! I think every family is so different and although there was a lot of hugging and kissing in ours there were also lots of arguments, which don't get so much of in the Waltons!
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Post by JeriJet on Sept 26, 2014 20:56:10 GMT -5
Following up on some of Suzie remarks.... I am quite surprised that one of my two sisters has not exactly followed the path set by our parents !! .... as kids, we never heard raised voices -- there were disagreements, of course, but all were handled in a very civil manner.... I believe this came mostly from my dad's side of the family.... My older sister and I have conducted our lives pretty much the same way, but my younger sister -- WOW -- broke my parents' hearts to hear the bad language that came out of both her and her husband, also the yelling and screaming, even throwing things.... how does that happen? If her husband was that way, did she try to change the situation? How could she stand it?
I find family dynamics very interesting
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Post by ruthann on Sept 27, 2014 18:54:17 GMT -5
Growing up our family was not demonstrative or verbal about emotions at all. When we left my grandparents farm after visiting I was told to kiss my grandparents and it seemed uncomfortable for everyone involved. That was just the way our family was. As an adult, my mother-in-law was always intent on kissing goodbye to family members. Unfortunately we did not enjoy a close relationship and to me this seemed forced and phony. Perhaps it made her feel better, but I would just as soon drop the pretense.
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Post by april on Sept 27, 2014 20:28:09 GMT -5
Our family hugs and kisses hello and goodbye and at bedtime too... Although we did with our Dad as kids, I think it's more from Mom's side of the family, who it was more natural to show affection.
I really noticed it when I first started to watch the Walton's again. I think It is good to see family show love for one another like this. It seems some of the Walton's it was more natural to kiss/hug than others who may have been more reserved or older.
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Post by Kathy Lee on Sept 29, 2014 5:22:41 GMT -5
My family wasn't very affectionate but I came out ok. I love to hug and kiss my grand babies. My kids and I hug but we don't kiss. This whole discussion reminds me of a Saturday Night Live skit about a family that was overly affectionate. They kissed hello and goodbye, etc. but on the lips! It was pretty funny. I think there was a Modern Family episode like this too! I watch entirely too much tv! LOL! I'd like to see that episode. It sounds funny!
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Post by Sussie of Teckelhut Acres on Sept 29, 2014 11:42:34 GMT -5
I never really knew much about affection until I moved out of my parents home. After that I became that way. Mainly from the school of hard knocks. Meaning that I always wanted a loved one to know how I felt about them when we said "See you later". The reason was because after losing a few friends and family to the grim reaper, I never wanted to regret not showing them how much they meant to me.
And yes. I always say See you later. I only say good-bye to those I know I will never see again. Whether it be human or animal.
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