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Post by alanankrett1 on Nov 1, 2019 19:36:49 GMT -5
Just reread the posts
I believe Michelle is no longer in that situation but Avalee, you still are
Hold your head high and take these issues to your teachers, principles or whatever you call them in USA
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Post by patriciaanne on Nov 1, 2019 20:02:29 GMT -5
The more secure you are in who you are, the less unimportant, rude people can bother you. Many years ago when I was working on Wall Street, someone left the company. I always knew she didn't care for me and that was ok with me. I was very successful there and happy in my job. When this individual left, she left a note on my chair telling me she was sure I would always be successful there as long as my boss was there to take care of me (implying that was the only reason I had success). She then made a snarky comment about one of my dresses and advised me to never wear it again (I did, of course, because I liked it.) Well, I thought this was the funniest thing I had ever read. I showed it to my boss so she could have a laugh. Next thing HER boss came running to my cubicle to see if I was "alright." Alright? I was confused. Then this woman, my boss's boss, who was a senior vice president and extremely successful told me if she had gotten a note like that it would have made her cry. Really??? I told her I thought it was funny and there was no way this inconsequential little person could ever hurt me. And I truly didn't give it a second thought until...
A few weeks later I saw someone about to fax intellectual capital that **I** had created to the snarky ex-employee. I told him...uhhhh....no. 😉
Here's the deal...no matter what you do or don't do...not everyone will like you. And that's ok. You don't need everyone to like you. Just make sure you love and respect yourself and the rest will fall into place.
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Post by Brenda on Nov 1, 2019 20:03:58 GMT -5
A case of a kind of bullying in The Waltons, is that of Samuel Miller (The Emergence), an older student, who arrives late for for school one morning announcing that the corn harvesting is now done. Olivia has never seen this student before as he is away often helping on the family farm. He is slow and behind in his studies and the children make fun of him calling him “Simple Miller”. Olivia discovers Samuel has poor eyesight and this is the reason for his poor school work. She visits Samuel’s parents to ascertain whether they can afford prescription glasses for him. His father thinks very little of his sons prospects and preferring him helping on the farm. Eventually he concedes and allows her to take Samuel to the 5 & Dime store to look for glasses that may suit him. When he finally finds a pair that work, a whole new world is opened up to him. The glasses not only open up a new world for Samuel, on the way home Jim Bob and Samuel are in the back seat of John Boy's car. Now Jim Bob sees Samuel as a boy very much like himself and not as dumb as he once thought he was. The episode ends with Jim Bob and Samuel singing "I'm looking under a four leaf clover." Bob Marsic (Samuel)
That’s an excellent synopsis of a very good episode. The actor who played Samuel Miller went on to play Luke Sims in a Little House on the Prairie episode. He was married to Nellie Oleson for about 5 minutes. That reminds me of a similar Little House episode. Caroline Ingalls was substitute teaching when a large teenage boy (played by Dirk Blocker, son of Bonanza’s Dan Blocker) who couldn’t read came to school. The children called him Dumb Abel. In this case, Caroline was able to convince the kids to stop bullying Abel and to work together to help him instead. While the children were compassionate, sadly it was Mrs. Oleson who bullied him. Attachments:
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Post by JessicaGirlSpy on Nov 1, 2019 23:42:40 GMT -5
When I started Secondary School last year, I was introduced to bullying. A group of older boys started to pick on me whenever they saw me. I wear glasses and don't have exactly straight teeth, (I'm getting braces in January). They would sblack person to themselves and make donkey noises. My friends would glare at them and tell me to ignore them because it wasn't worth it, but I couldn't. My face would heat up and tears would gather. Why would they care what I look like? I didn't even know them! Can't they look past my appearance? I hate the pressure to be pretty. I believe everyone is beautiful in their own way. But especially with girls my age, you have to wear heavy makeup and have straight teeth and no glasses to be pretty. I am so lucky to have true friends, who love me as I am. Eventually it became not that big of a deal, and it grew easier to ignore the boys. But I can always sympathise with those who have been bullied. I know my story may not be a story of direct bullying, but in its own way, I believe it was. I was very hesitant to post this. If anyone feels it was off topic, don't worry I won't be offended and I will delete this post. Xx I am sorry if you have ever been bullied.  ❤️ I can relate with this so much. I too wear glasses and both braces and glasses are my fashion accessories. I'm bad a walking,living and breathing cliche of nerdom /geekdom. Skinny,mostly flat-chested, slight acne, I'm a band-geek, I love sci-fi, not pretty, not really ugly just plain, I don't like heavy makeup, it's not me. I was ad a seizure at school, in the lunchroom, and a few idiots use this as part of their taunts.(Even though I'm three years seizure free) bullying was so bad, I nearly ended my life in March. Things are slightly improving. Family,friends, pastor and his wife, fellow church members,God have helped me through a truly dark time. When I grow up finish college, graduate school, I want to help youth, especially suicidal youth and become a Christian Psychologist. I have empathy to share. |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 2, 2019 4:57:04 GMT -5
A classic book and movie which depicts school bullying at its worst is Tom Brown's Schooldays. The story is set in the 1830s at Rugby School, a public school for boys. On his arrival, the eleven-year-old Tom Brown is looked after by a more experienced classmate, Harry "Scud" East. Tom's nemesis at Rugby is the bully Flashman. The intensity of the bullying increases, and, after refusing to hand over a sweepstake ticket for the favourite in a horse race, Tom is deliberately burned in front of a fire. I hope this isn't region are blocked. |
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Post by avaleewalton on Nov 2, 2019 5:30:07 GMT -5
Avalee and Michelle I am very sorry to hear about all of this Be strong and don't let them get to you Your education is important Don't let those mindless fools interfere with your studies Take up the issues with your teachers They should be able to help you surely Thank you  |
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Post by avaleewalton on Nov 2, 2019 5:30:39 GMT -5
A case of a kind of bullying in The Waltons, is that of Samuel Miller (The Emergence), an older student, who arrives late for for school one morning announcing that the corn harvesting is now done. Olivia has never seen this student before as he is away often helping on the family farm. He is slow and behind in his studies and the children make fun of him calling him “Simple Miller”. Olivia discovers Samuel has poor eyesight and this is the reason for his poor school work. She visits Samuel’s parents to ascertain whether they can afford prescription glasses for him. His father thinks very little of his sons prospects and preferring him helping on the farm. Eventually he concedes and allows her to take Samuel to the 5 & Dime store to look for glasses that may suit him. When he finally finds a pair that work, a whole new world is opened up to him. The glasses not only open up a new world for Samuel, on the way home Jim Bob and Samuel are in the back seat of John Boy's car. Now Jim Bob sees Samuel as a boy very much like himself and not as dumb as he once thought he was. The episode ends with Jim Bob and Samuel singing "I'm looking under a four leaf clover." Bob Marsic (Samuel)
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Post by avaleewalton on Nov 2, 2019 5:31:28 GMT -5
Just reread the posts I believe Michelle is no longer in that situation but Avalee, you still are Hold your head high and take these issues to your teachers, principles or whatever you call them in USA Thanks. Oh, and I live in Northern Ireland 😂❤️ |
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Post by avaleewalton on Nov 2, 2019 5:32:17 GMT -5
The more secure you are in who you are, the less unimportant, rude people can bother you. Many years ago when I was working on Wall Street, someone left the company. I always knew she didn't care for me and that was ok with me. I was very successful there and happy in my job. When this individual left, she left a note on my chair telling me she was sure I would always be successful there as long as my boss was there to take care of me (implying that was the only reason I had success). She then made a snarky comment about one of my dresses and advised me to never wear it again (I did, of course, because I liked it.) Well, I thought this was the funniest thing I had ever read. I showed it to my boss so she could have a laugh. Next thing HER boss came running to my cubicle to see if I was "alright." Alright? I was confused. Then this woman, my boss's boss, who was a senior vice president and extremely successful told me if she had gotten a note like that it would have made her cry. Really??? I told her I thought it was funny and there was no way this inconsequential little person could ever hurt me. And I truly didn't give it a second thought until... A few weeks later I saw someone about to fax intellectual capital that **I** had created to the snarky ex-employee. I told him...uhhhh....no. 😉 Here's the deal...no matter what you do or don't do...not everyone will like you. And that's ok. You don't need everyone to like you. Just make sure you love and respect yourself and the rest will fall into place. I'm sorry you had to go through that. And thanks for the advice ❤️ |
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Post by avaleewalton on Nov 2, 2019 5:33:38 GMT -5
A case of a kind of bullying in The Waltons, is that of Samuel Miller (The Emergence), an older student, who arrives late for for school one morning announcing that the corn harvesting is now done. Olivia has never seen this student before as he is away often helping on the family farm. He is slow and behind in his studies and the children make fun of him calling him “Simple Miller”. Olivia discovers Samuel has poor eyesight and this is the reason for his poor school work. She visits Samuel’s parents to ascertain whether they can afford prescription glasses for him. His father thinks very little of his sons prospects and preferring him helping on the farm. Eventually he concedes and allows her to take Samuel to the 5 & Dime store to look for glasses that may suit him. When he finally finds a pair that work, a whole new world is opened up to him. The glasses not only open up a new world for Samuel, on the way home Jim Bob and Samuel are in the back seat of John Boy's car. Now Jim Bob sees Samuel as a boy very much like himself and not as dumb as he once thought he was. The episode ends with Jim Bob and Samuel singing "I'm looking under a four leaf clover." Bob Marsic (Samuel)
That’s an excellent synopsis of a very good episode. The actor who played Samuel Miller went on to play Luke Sims in a Little House on the Prairie episode. He was married to Nellie Oleson for about 5 minutes. That reminds me of a similar Little House episode. Caroline Ingalls was substitute teaching when a large teenage boy (played by Dirk Blocker, son of Bonanza’s Dan Blocker) who couldn’t read came to school. The children called him Dumb Abel. In this case, Caroline was able to convince the kids to stop bullying Abel and to work together to help him instead. While the children were compassionate, sadly it was Mrs. Oleson who bullied him. Oo I remember that episode! It was really good. |
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Post by avaleewalton on Nov 2, 2019 5:39:28 GMT -5
A classic book and movie which depicts school bullying at its worst is Tom Brown's Schooldays. The story is set in the 1830s at Rugby School, a public school for boys. On his arrival, the eleven-year-old Tom Brown is looked after by a more experienced classmate, Harry "Scud" East. Tom's nemesis at Rugby is the bully Flashman. The intensity of the bullying increases, and, after refusing to hand over a sweepstake ticket for the favourite in a horse race, Tom is deliberately burned in front of a fire. I hope this isn't region are blocked. I'll have to check that movie out, thanks Joe Zeb |
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Post by JessicaGirlSpy on Nov 2, 2019 6:26:32 GMT -5
I can relate with this so much. I too wear glasses and both braces and glasses are my fashion accessories. I'm bad a walking,living and breathing cliche of nerdom /geekdom. Skinny,mostly flat-chested, slight acne, I'm a band-geek, I love sci-fi, not pretty, not really ugly just plain, I don't like heavy makeup, it's not me. I was ad a seizure at school, in the lunchroom, and a few idiots use this as part of their taunts.(Even though I'm three years seizure free) bullying was so bad, I nearly ended my life in March. Things are slightly improving. Family,friends, pastor and his wife, fellow church members,God have helped me through a truly dark time. When I grow up finish college, graduate school, I want to help youth, especially suicidal youth and become a Christian Psychologist. I have empathy to share. Oh my goodness I am so sorry to hear about that:( I'm glad things are going better now!!! ❤️ And really, I try to make friends with fellow 'geeks, nerds' as they are usually so nice! (Not trying to stereotype, but in my school it's true) Thank you. Things are slightly better ( the key word is slightly) I'm sorry to hear about your troubles. With my life, I've learned a gentle self -deprecating humor does help a bit. I've learned to embrace my nerdyness/geekness/weirdness. I know I'll never be on the cover of any fashion magazine and I'm fine with that. Few of the kids make fun of me because of my faith. I'm a Born Again Christian (some what vocal at school at times) and just awkward social skills at times. I do have a strong feeling ( perhaps a calling from God) that I'm here to help people. They're many hurting people with deeper emotional wounds I'll never understand, as a future psychologist,hopefully I can help and know life is worth living. |
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Post by patriciaanne on Nov 2, 2019 6:51:08 GMT -5
Oh my goodness I am so sorry to hear about that:( I'm glad things are going better now!!! ❤️ And really, I try to make friends with fellow 'geeks, nerds' as they are usually so nice! (Not trying to stereotype, but in my school it's true) Thank you. Things are slightly better ( the key word is slightly) I'm sorry to hear about your troubles. With my life, I've learned a gentle self -deprecating humor does help a bit. I've learned to embrace my nerdyness/geekness/weirdness. I know I'll never be on the cover of any fashion magazine and I'm fine with that. Few of the kids make fun of me because of my faith. I'm a Born Again Christian (some what vocal at school at times) and just awkward social skills at times. I do have a strong feeling ( perhaps a calling from God) that I'm here to help people. They're many hurting people with deeper emotional wounds I'll never understand, as a future psychologist,hopefully I can help and know life is worth living. Molly, at the age of 13, you have no idea what you're going to look like. Over the next few years you will change a lot. I know that is not at all relevant to your good character, but I just want to mention that. There's also nothing wrong (as you get older) to do things that enhance your confidence like changing your hairstyle, getting contacts, wearing make-up....IF you wanted to. Also, the most attractive thing about someone is self-confidence. People flock to those who exude self-confidence. You sound like a wonderful person in so many ways. Don't dismiss yourself so easily. I am quite sure you are destined for great things. |
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Post by patriciaanne on Nov 2, 2019 7:01:24 GMT -5
I thought it was funny and there was no way this inconsequential little person could ever hurt me. And I truly didn't give it a second thought until...
A few weeks later I saw someone about to fax intellectual capital that **I** had created to the snarky ex-employee. I told him...uhhhh....no. 😉
Here's the deal...no matter what you do or don't do...not everyone will like you. And that's ok. You don't need everyone to like you. Just make sure you love and respect yourself and the rest will fall into place.[/quote]
I'm sorry you had to go through that. And thanks for the advice ❤️[/quote]
You are very welcome. And no need to be sorry, as it truly didn't bother me. My hope for you -- and everyone -- is that you can become "bullet-proof" to people who don't matter. There will always be a short list of people who DO matter -- family, close friends, romantic partners. And they will say/do things that hurt you because we're all human. But outside of that very small circle, no one should have the power to deeply hurt you. Or at the very least, it should be the emotional equivalent of stubbing your toe, not taking a punch to the gut. 😉
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Post by avaleewalton on Nov 2, 2019 8:21:10 GMT -5
I thought it was funny and there was no way this inconsequential little person could ever hurt me. And I truly didn't give it a second thought until... A few weeks later I saw someone about to fax intellectual capital that **I** had created to the snarky ex-employee. I told him...uhhhh....no. 😉 Here's the deal...no matter what you do or don't do...not everyone will like you. And that's ok. You don't need everyone to like you. Just make sure you love and respect yourself and the rest will fall into place. I'm sorry you had to go through that. And thanks for the advice ❤️[/quote] You are very welcome. And no need to be sorry, as it truly didn't bother me. My hope for you -- and everyone -- is that you can become "bullet-proof" to people who don't matter. There will always be a short list of people who DO matter -- family, close friends, romantic partners. And they will say/do things that hurt you because we're all human. But outside of that very small circle, no one should have the power to deeply hurt you. Or at the very least, it should be the emotional equivalent of stubbing your toe, not taking a punch to the gut. 😉[/quote] Thanks again for the advice ❤️ |
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