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Post by goldfinch1 on Mar 27, 2019 16:25:59 GMT -5
Thank you so much for your post Forum Administrator. I really appreciate all you have explained to me. Yes dear Kimberly is indeed a very kind soul and I fully understand the sequence of events. 🌸 Poem : Flavia Weedn "Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for a while, leave footprints on our hearts, and we are never ever the same." |
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Post by patriciaanne on Mar 27, 2019 16:35:02 GMT -5
It's true...it never would have occurred to me that something so serious was wrong. Especially because it had only been 6 or 7 weeks. People get busy and often drift off for awhile. I, too, feel very bad, even though I didn't know him outside this Forum. There is also something very sad about someone dying without any family. Although Gordon never gave any indication that he was particularly lonely. I just feel bad thinking that there wasn't even anyone around to write a decent obituary. I must make a note to write my own if I should ever find myself having outlived everyone else. At least I have a niece and nephew who should outlive me and hopefully my sister, too, as I am older than she. (I've already informed her that she is NOT to go ahead of me but she often doesn't listen to me.) Yes Patriciaane, It never really occupied to me at first either: As for Gordon being lonely I recall a quote in his post on 25th Dec 2018 : "I miss my Mother intensely, and honestly I've never gotten over my Father's death 37 years ago. But I'm not lonely just truly alone now'. I was deeply moved by his sentiments there! As for his Obituary Gordon had posted this on 5th Aug 2016 on the setiathome.berkley.edu forum: "I'd rather write my own eulogy and obituary. Who knows what my nieces and nephews are planning to say upon my demise!!" "Oh trust me, I already have that base covered, too. I'm a planner." I do hope Gordon had the chosen service he wished for and that someone laid some Tiger Lilies on his final resting place 😢🌸 It's only been two years since I lost my father and I can relate to how he felt. I dread losing my mother and I am fortunate to not be completely alone. So I can't even imagine how he dealt with the loss of his mother. I wonder if he had some sort of premonition that caused him to go out and get a headstone just a couple of years ago. Several years ago, a neighbor who had battled breast cancer for about 15 years was losing the final battle. I still remember her saying that perhaps this happened to her because she wouldn't have been able to deal with the loss of her parents. They both outlived her for several years and now they are all together. |
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Post by goldfinch1 on Mar 27, 2019 17:16:24 GMT -5
Oh dear, yes I totally empathise and completely understand all what you have said. I have lived my whole life dreading the passing of my Parents. Treasure every day with your Mother, and as dear Grandpa said to JimBob, make such you let your loved ones know how much you love them while they are still with us. I'm so glad you are not alone.
Yes I thought that too about a possible premonition, he had only just turned 50 after all.😕 We will never know of course. Being alone so to speak may concentrate the mind though.🌸
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Post by ForeverWaltons on Mar 27, 2019 19:20:20 GMT -5
It's true...it never would have occurred to me that something so serious was wrong. Especially because it had only been 6 or 7 weeks. People get busy and often drift off for awhile. I, too, feel very bad, even though I didn't know him outside this Forum. There is also something very sad about someone dying without any family. Although Gordon never gave any indication that he was particularly lonely. I just feel bad thinking that there wasn't even anyone around to write a decent obituary. I must make a note to write my own if I should ever find myself having outlived everyone else. At least I have a niece and nephew who should outlive me and hopefully my sister, too, as I am older than she. (I've already informed her that she is NOT to go ahead of me but she often doesn't listen to me.) Yes Patriciaane, It never really occurred to me at first either: As for Gordon being lonely I recall a quote in his post on 25th Dec 2018 : "I miss my Mother intensely, and honestly I've never gotten over my Father's death 37 years ago. But I'm not lonely just truly alone now'. I was deeply moved by his sentiments there! As for his Obituary Gordon had posted this on 5th Aug 2016 on the setiathome.berkley.edu forum: "I'd rather write my own eulogy and obituary. Who knows what my nieces and nephews are planning to say upon my demise!!" "Oh trust me, I already have that base covered, too. I'm a planner." I do hope Gordon had the chosen service he wished for and that someone laid some Tiger Lilies on his final resting place 😢🌸
On the setiathome.berkeley.edu forum where it says, "I'd rather write my own eulogy and obituary. Who knows what my nieces and nephews are planning to say upon my demise!!" was written by that forum's member Angela.
Gordon replied to Angela, "Oh trust me, I already have that base covered, too. I'm a planner."
I wonder if there was anyone who knew where he put it? I wonder if he had already took care of having his date of death carved into his stone when the time came for that?
I had some pomegranate blueberry juice still in my refrigerator from the conversation he and I had about that drink. I drank a toast to his memory with it last night. He was posting daily for quite a while. I just felt he wasn't the type that would take a hiatus without mentioning it here on the forum. I am truly going to miss him. 
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Post by ForeverWaltons on Mar 27, 2019 19:21:14 GMT -5
I hope Kimberly doesn’t mind, but I have edited the subject line of this thread to show that it is now a memorial thread rather than a missing person thread.
Thank you Brenda.
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Post by goldfinch1 on Mar 27, 2019 21:02:33 GMT -5
Yes Patriciaane, It never really occurred to me at first either: As for Gordon being lonely I recall a quote in his post on 25th Dec 2018 : "I miss my Mother intensely, and honestly I've never gotten over my Father's death 37 years ago. But I'm not lonely just truly alone now'. I was deeply moved by his sentiments there! As for his Obituary Gordon had posted this on 5th Aug 2016 on the setiathome.berkley.edu forum: "I'd rather write my own eulogy and obituary. Who knows what my nieces and nephews are planning to say upon my demise!!" "Oh trust me, I already have that base covered, too. I'm a planner." I do hope Gordon had the chosen service he wished for and that someone laid some Tiger Lilies on his final resting place 😢🌸
On the setiathome.berkeley.edu forum where it says, "I'd rather write my own eulogy and obituary. Who knows what my nieces and nephews are planning to say upon my demise!!" was written by that forum's member Angela.
Gordon replied to Angela, "Oh trust me, I already have that base covered, too. I'm a planner."
I wonder if there was anyone who knew where he put it? I wonder if he had already took care of having his date of death carved into his stone when the time came for that?
I had some pomegranate blueberry juice still in my refrigerator from the conversation he and I had about that drink. I drank a toast to his memory with it last night. He was posting daily for quite a while. I just felt he wasn't the type that would take a hiatus without mentioning it here on the forum. I am truly going to miss him.
Oh sorry I misread that........Yes of course he wouldn't have had nieces and nephews.😟 It stated on the setiahome forum "As per his wishes, he will be buried without ceremony in Louisville". But I hope there was some form of committal service however brief. How sad and difficult that must have been for him to make that decision, my heart breaks. Did you ever meet Gordon? Yes I remember the conversation about the pomegranate, that was a lovely gesture. I toasted him too, although with something a little stronger. Oh it's all so very sad, and I'm so sorry for you too😢🌸 |
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Post by ForeverWaltons on Mar 28, 2019 8:36:37 GMT -5
goldfinch1 - I never had the pleasure of meeting Gordon. I have made note of the cemetery where he is buried. If I ever make it to Louisville Kentucky, I want to visit his gravesite. Hopefully tiger lilies will be in season then & I can leave some on his grave.
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Post by nedandres on Mar 28, 2019 17:46:29 GMT -5
So sad about this. May it remind us to reach out, love, and allow ourselves to be loved by others. While time, which is precious and fragile, is on our side! ❤️
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Post by goldfinch1 on Mar 28, 2019 19:42:20 GMT -5
goldfinch1 - I never had the pleasure of meeting Gordon. I have made note of the cemetery where he is buried. If I ever make it to Louisville Kentucky, I want to visit his gravesite. Hopefully tiger lilies will be in season then & I can leave some on his grave. Dear ForeverWaltons I do hope that one day you are able to visit Gordon's grave, and what a lovely gesture. I wish I could join you. please would you a give a kiss on his lovely headstone from me. Thank you. God Bless🌸 |
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Post by Honeybee on Apr 10, 2019 19:06:17 GMT -5
I didn’t know, he passed away. Sad to heard.
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Post by nedandres on Apr 11, 2019 9:22:28 GMT -5
I miss Gordon's posts!  |
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