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Post by Brenda on May 14, 2022 19:46:09 GMT -5
We know that John and Olivia renewed their marriage vows in the Season 3 episode The Woman. I’ve noticed that “renewing vows” seems to be a popular theme on tv shows. Charles and Caroline Ingalls renewed their vows in a Little House episode. A few days ago I was watching an episode of Everybody Loves Raymond when Ray and Debra renewed their vows. Then today I was watching Roseanne, and Dan and Roseanne renewed their vows. Can you think of other tv couples who renewed their marriage vows? How about in real life? Have you ever done anything like that, or have you ever witnessed other couples who did? My husband and I were married for 45 years before he passed away in 2016. We never even thought about renewing our vows. I guess we felt like it took the first time. I do think it is a lovely idea if a couple wants to do it. I just wonder if it is as common in real life as it seems to be on tv. John and Olivia Walton  Charles and Caroline Ingalls  Ray and Debra Barone  Dan and Roseanne Conner  |
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Post by whisper on May 15, 2022 3:58:16 GMT -5
"If it ain't broke, dont fix it"
In the 70s my sister moved to Guernsey. She met a Dutchman and they were married in a register office. They lived in Holland for a while, then came back to the UK. After about five years they decided to have a church wedding. A year later she ran away with a hippy .
I never felt the need to renew our vows.
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Post by Deleted on May 15, 2022 18:08:15 GMT -5
I don't know anybody who has done that in real life. It's not something I would do. I think I would see it like someone was insecure about their relationship and they needed the other person to validate it.
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Post by pinkbaker07 on May 16, 2022 18:32:17 GMT -5
I'm sorry for your loss. My bff and her husband did for their 20th anniversary.
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Post by flossieskid on May 17, 2022 3:33:09 GMT -5
I knew one couple who renewed their vows on their 50th wedding anniversary. You may know the husband: actor Bob Hastings and his beautiful wife, Joan. Bob is best known for portraying Joe Flynn’s sidekick in “McHale’s Navy, Lt. Elroy Carpenter; Police Captain Ramsey on the soap opera, “General Hospital” and also the voice of Captain Gordon in the animated “Batman” series.
Bob and Joan didn’t want to make it a huge deal. When they attended their regular weekly Catholic mass in Burbank, CA, after the communion procession the priest called Bob and Joan up to the altar. The Hastings had lived in Burbank (pop.100,000) for over 40 years and one of their sons had been the Mayor of Burbank. All the Hastings were well known in the city. The priest spoke briefly about the love Bob and Joan shared for each other, for their 4 children, 10 grandchildren and 9 great grandchildren. It was inspiring.
Bob and Joan became my second parents after my own Mom and Dad died. Bob played “Archie” on the radio where he first met my Dad when they were both teenagers performing on radio shows in New York. The Hastings were also the only grandparents my children ever really knew. So, all of their extended family and friends truly celebrated their initial union - and - then their reconfirmation of that love!
Renewing vows is, I think, much more popular in LA - anything to have a party and great weather all year long! But, I do think our city has a larger percentage of divorce than most. That theory was confirmed when I tried to buy Bob and Joan a 50th Wedding Anniversary card. After going to three CVS stores, I asked a clerk if they did sell cards to celebrate someone’s 50th anniversary? Her reply: “ I’m not sure if it’s Hollywood or just L.A., but no one around here usually stays married that long so we don’t really keep those cards in stock.” Seriously?!?
My husband and I will be celebrating our 50th wedding anniversary next March. We have been thinking about renewing our vows - but mainly as an excuse to have a big party and see all our friends! But, of course, the really important reason: to reaffirm the love that started our family over 50 years ago.
I will look forward to the Walton episode where John and Olivia renew their vows. Should I keep my Kleenex handy???
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Post by Brenda on May 17, 2022 5:57:07 GMT -5
Congratulations on 50 years! My husband and I were married on December 18, 1971, so our 50th would have been this past December if cancer hadn’t taken him from me. What a horrible disease! I wish you and your husband many more years together. I never watched McHale’s Navy, so I’m not really sure who Bob Hastings is, but according to his IMDB profile, he has a long list of credits, including an appearance in a 1980 episode of The Waltons! The Season 3 episode “The Woman” is actually more about John Boy than John and Olivia. The “renewing marriage vows” was the secondary story or plot in that episode, so no, I don’t think you will need tissues for this one. |
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Post by AuntieEm on May 17, 2022 12:07:49 GMT -5
My parents didn’t renew their vows formally. However my Dad had a band added to his wedding band at their 25th anniversary, and another at their 50th anniversary . My parents are no longer here; if they were they would have celebrated their 75th anniversary last May.
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Post by canamkid on May 17, 2022 22:09:23 GMT -5
My parents did it at 25 and 50 years of marriage. My sister and I were best man and matron of honour. Ya sounds corny.
My wife and I are at 20 this year. I would renew our vows at 25 unless she poisons me first. She watches an awful lot of those murder shows.
Someone mentioned insecurity. I look at it as celebration. Marriage is hard work. Deaths. Loss of jobs/money issues. Sacrifice. Insecurity. John and Olivia (Grandma and Grandpa) were strong in supporting their families.
Plus I’d rather get a peck on the lips from my wife after 25 years rather than a cheap plaque from my job if I lasted there 25 years.
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Post by patriciaanne on May 18, 2022 15:05:06 GMT -5
No one in my family has renewed their vows. But if I ever get around to working on the anulment of my first marriage, I would love to re-marry my current husband in church. And have a party afterward. Our wedding was at the beginning of the pandemic so there were only 12 people there -- including us and the judge. It was sort of like eloping, but we didn't run away. We got married on our farm. 🥰 flossieskid Tracey, congratulations on your 50th!!! For my parents' 50th, I took them to Ireland, where they had their honeymoon. It was the trip of a lifetime and worth every penny. 💗 |
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Post by flossieskid on May 18, 2022 21:53:26 GMT -5
Fun fact Brenda: my parent’s wedding anniversary was Dec.18th! And my friend and film critic, Leonard Maltin’s birthday is also on that day!
I am so sorry that your husband was taken from you far too soon. Cancer is a devastating illness and, as a caregiver, it falls to the spouse to handle everything and that can be a lonely place. But, I am sure you have many wonderful memories that sustain you.
PatriciaAnne - what a great gift you gave to your parents. Ancestry defines me as 98% Irish and I LOVE Ireland so much - I could easily live out my days there. What a fabulous time they must have had!
Everyone who mentioned that marriage is work is right. But if you choose the right spouse, it can be filled with laughter and such wonderful joy - it is worth the effort! But everyone has their ups and downs, as well, in any relationship. I think it was the wife of Billy Graham (Ruth) who, when asked if she ever thought of divorce during her longtime marriage to Billy replied: “No, I have never thought of divorce - murder maybe - but never divorce!” We all have had those days!
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Post by patriciaanne on May 19, 2022 16:20:51 GMT -5
^^^ flossieskid Tracey, they had a wonderful time! And I made them a beautiful photo book so they could revisit many times. We went with them (hubby and I), and it was a beautiful experience for us as well. Have you been to Ireland? (Can't remember if you said you had.) You must go! It's such a wonderful place to visit. ☘️💚 |
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Post by dayton3 on May 20, 2022 11:51:49 GMT -5
"If it ain't broke, dont fix it" In the 70s my sister moved to Guernsey. She met a Dutchman and they were married in a register office. They lived in Holland for a while, then came back to the UK. After about five years they decided to have a church wedding. A year later she ran away with a hippy . I never felt the need to renew our vows. How are her and the hippy doing? |
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Post by whisper on May 20, 2022 12:55:08 GMT -5
"If it ain't broke, dont fix it" In the 70s my sister moved to Guernsey. She met a Dutchman and they were married in a register office. They lived in Holland for a while, then came back to the UK. After about five years they decided to have a church wedding. A year later she ran away with a hippy . I never felt the need to renew our vows. How are her and the hippy doing? They split up after about 10years , and 2 kids |
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Post by goodnight on May 20, 2022 22:28:07 GMT -5
I just watched the one with Dan and Roseanne on COZI TV tonight.
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Post by flossieskid on May 21, 2022 4:46:27 GMT -5
Yes, PatriciaAnne, I have been to Ireland 3 times, so far. On my bucket list is to go back to Ireland and visit Londonderry which was off limits to tourists during my prior visits due to the violence with the IRA. Although in certain places, it lists my father’s birthplace as Glasgow, Scotland, my father told us he was born in Londonderry which was home to many generations of McCallions!
During one of my prior visits I went to a local shop in Dublin and looked up my own Coat of Arms, as well as my married name. Surprise: they were practically identical! We found out from the historian that “McCampbells” emigrated from Scotland to Ireland and after many years, it became “McCallion” in Ireland and “Campbell” in Scotland. So does that mean I married myself?
Another interesting story about my maiden name. My great great grandfather left Ireland and God knows how, but he arrived in Texas. Soon he fell in love with a wealthy widow who owned an incredible amount of land. They married, but the workers they hired from Mexico couldn’t pronounce “McCallion” nor could they understand my relative’s pronunciation of his name due to his thick, Irish accent. So they shortened his name to “McAllen” and that is how “McAllen, Texas” was founded. I heard this story straight from the mouth of James McAllen who was doing a geology study of his family. Sadly, the name has now been linked forever with the shameful practice of removing and detaining children from their parents who entered this country from Mexico. No matter one’s political view, innocent children should not be the ones who suffer.
I know from the series that “Walton’s Mountain” has been in their family for generations. But, does anyone recall if any other relatives migrated from other countries to settle on the mountain? I know Flossie’s husband was “German born” as she said in “The Firestorm” but I can’t recall any other residents who were transplants. But, then again, as I have mentioned, I didn’t watch the show much after my Mom died. Perhaps, some Forum fans can educate me.
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